Calling it Quits (or not?)

 

So, its that time of the month where I find that I’ve outgrown my generic web persona, labelled “The Naked Husband” and move on to something that inspires me.

It’s been great so far but, the bell has tolled and I’ll be moving on to writing under a more relevant handle.  Using a very abstract nickname has become more of a burden for me because I find it too far removed from me to be relevant and to vague to focus.

You can follow my escapades at Where John Ricke Writes.  Why John Ricke?  Well, John is very close to my real name and Ricke?  I’ll leave that to you and Google Translate.

[Reblog] After having her modesty covered for years, a church restoration...

After having her modesty covered for years, a church restoration...:


After having her modesty covered for years, a church restoration has revealed a statue of a topless woman.

The small statue has uncovered in the church house next to the Priory Church of St James in Bristol, where Methodist founder John Wesley, who died in 1791, aged 87, worshipped.

There is speculation that the unclothed figure was too much of a distraction for Wesley and his early 18th Century Methodists who ordered her to be covered up.

The prudish parishioners had a lead breast plate placed over her chest which remained in position for the next three centuries.

Workers discovered the statue during a restoration project of the ancient building and removed the lead covering.

The figure has now been exposed again and returned to her former glory with help from the Society for the Protection of AncientBuildings.

The buxom brunette, who is holding a cornucopia of fruit, stands with her green frock pulled down beneath her breasts and a red shawl wrapped around her shoulders.

She is thought to have arrived from abroad and placed in the house shortly after it was built in the 17th Century.

The church the house stands next to is the Grade I listed, 12th Century Priory Church of St James.

Yep, Still Around

It’s been ages since I posted something sensible on this blog.  It’s they way of the blog world however, posting frequency rises and posting frequency falls.  Blogs come and blogs go.

I on the other hand have not cum and for the foreseeable future will not be cuming.  What’s the day count so far?  Last I remember was over the ninety day mark.  I don’t really keep track of the time anymore – it’s something that I did in the beginning of my chastity journey.  I have the date (roughly, give or take a day or so) of my last orgasm in my timer though, just so I can check if I need to.

Of all the things I can say about this journey my wife and I are on is that saying you have reached a new level or made some kind of breakthrough in how it has become part of your life has, for me at least, become a bit of a cliché.  The one constant is that things will always change.  You will always grow and make new discoveries about yourself.

The biggest change I think that happened over the past few months is that rather than simply focussing on the Orgasm Denial aspect Male Chastity is now much more important to us.  @WifeyInCharge has become very passionate about ensuring that “her” cock remains locked for as much time as possible.

I still don’t often sleep with my device nor do I go to work with it but when home I’m more often locked than not.  Other than knowing that it is something she also has come to love and derive pleasure from I do find it therapeutic.  Therapeutic in the sense that when your cock is locked up and effectively out of the equation I find that it is so much easier to focus on the really important things in life.

As far as devices go, I’m still mostly in the CB6000s.  I did do another stint in the PA-5000 but, it still seems that the two of us will remain in our love hate relationship.  It’s brilliant for a day or two, but after that I really start to chafe, have the piercing become sensitive etc.  Oh well…

I’ve totally given up on the Jailhouse and am considering placing it in a box frame and hanging it in the living room – see how many conversations it starts.

Our next steps as far as Orgasm Denial is concerned is totally in @WifeyInCharge’s hands.  She has really come to the party in a big way and I am eternally grateful to her for sharing this adventure with me, I have no idea when she will decide that I can go over the edge but I do know that it won’t be this year and very probably not early next year either.  I have a suspicion that she want’s to let me do a full year this time (and not let too much teasing and a jolly New Year put a halt on things before reaching the goal.)

Sarah Jameson’s Chastity novel available for free today

 

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You guys… You’re so cool!

 

I haven’t even published a post about it and 26 of you have already voted on my poll.  Thank you for taking the time to do so. 

The internet is a busy place.  Information wizzes towards us, passes us and is never missed because there is a never-ending stream of new bits and bobs to replace it.  I also swim in this maelstrom and know just how valuable my clicks can be and it warms my heart to no end that so many of you have voted already.

Let me tell you what this is all about.  I’ve had the feeling for a while now that the original intention of this blog has been achieved.  It was about me getting my feelings out there, being naked in order for me to express my true desires to the woman I love.  A sounding board of sorts.

At this point my life is as I wanted it.  My wife is on board with male chastity.  Not only on board, she actually loves it and is starting to brim over – wanting to share what she has learnt with people in the spheres she frequents.

We have sorted out who cares for which relationship food group and are each happy and content in our roles.  We know what we want to do and what we’re good at.  We’ve never been as dynamic a duo as we are today.

I’m so proud of her I can feel my chest wanting to burst with the emotion.  Still, there is so much to do and explore – in real life an fantasy -  that I thought I’d like to hear from you.  Yes, you the person reading this who in some way helped me get to where I am even if it was through the simple act of leaving a page hit which made me feel good on a bad day.

Have a look at the poll in the right-hand sidebar.  Let me know what you want to see more of.  I don’t have an en planned for that specific poll.  I may reset it with new topics but, give it a go.  You may just get to read a bit more about what you fancy.

At the time of writing this the clear winner is more factual chastity posts and chastity captions.  Something I think that the web has a shortage of.  If the demand is there, I think I have a few chastity captions in me that don’t revolve around small dicks, henpecked husbands and bitchy wives.

Beating The Nocturnal Erection

While we sleep men have erections all the time.  They come and go during the course of the night.  When in chastity the early mornings are notorious for producing extremely strong erections that are uncomfortable enough to disturb sleeping patterns.

I’m not sure why these erections are so much stronger than usual but, they were one of the factors that have kept me from remaining locked during the night.  But, I have found something that works for me at least.

Wearing underwear seems to do the magic trick of convincing my cock not to go as insanely hard as it would had I been sleeping commando while caged.

I’ve been trying it a few nights now and so far it’s been 100% successful.  No problems at all.  Of course I’m not all that happy with having to wear underwear but since it’s winter here it’s not all bad.

I’m going to stick with this for a week or so and then report back on whether my body gets used to the cage to such an extent that it doesn’t require any undies to sleep the night through.

A Chastity Win

 

I’ve been experimenting with chastity devices for a while now, having experienced the Jail House, PA-5000 and CB-6000s.  But, for some reason my wife has never really warmed up to the idea of the cage before - until recently.

Just as I have evolved in my needs and wants regarding Male Orgasm Denial and Chastity, so too did she.  For the past week or so she has insisted that I remain caged more often than not.

In the past we would use the cage when I would be alone and not under her supervision.  It’s not that I want to cheat and sneak in a wank but, being alone with erotic material available wherever we turn these days makes it so hard.  Especially if you haven’t had anything for close to 40 days.  This arrangement was therefore for her benefit and mine.

What I really craved was that she required me to remain locked more often, for no other reason that that she wanted me to.  I didn’t push the issue, we had discussions every now and again over the past three years but in recent months I had for the most part simply let go of it.

This has all changed.  She now, of her own volition, prefers that I remain locked at all times, unless I am off to work.  I sleep with my cage and get unlocked in the morning for my shower before I leave.  When I get back home it’s in the cage and over weekends the only time out is when I have my daily showers.

It’s feels so brilliant when ones spouse takes such an interest in something that is so important to us.

In the past I had problems sleeping during the early mornings when I would get my nocturnal erections but, having her insist that I sleep caged these days pushed me to finding a solution to this.  More about that in the next post.

[Reblog] Photo

Source: Goat Cheese

Orgasm Denial - It’s Not Just Good For Guys

I’ve been reading a very interesting book called: “Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships.”  It goes into some detail around the science of orgasm, most importantly the aftereffects of having an orgasm.

Being involved in Male Chastity and Orgasm Denial I’m quite aware of the after effects of an orgasm on the male psyche.  Having read the book I have a much clearer picture as to why we suffer from an “orgasm hangover.”  The neurochemicals involved are explained in quite some detail.

What was much more interesting though is that women aren’t immune to this…  Something I think the keyholders out there, subscribing to idea of as many orgasms as possible, should perhaps take note of and read the book…

Back In The Cage

My last post saw my wife on holiday for a week with her mother.  Since then things have been ticking along.  I’d hoped to get back into the swing of things Chastity wise but things have only really kicked into gear about two weeks ago.  That means that we’re firmly back into a new cycle of orgasm denial but, this time around things are different…

This biggest change is that we have no set periods of chastity.  Readers of my blog probably know that WIC is a firm believer in long periods of orgasm denial.  Given that we’ve proven that a very long 254 days is not an impossibility I can, with all honesty, say that I have no idea when my next orgasm will be.

Another change is that WIC has decided that she will not be giving me any milkings or even get close to ruined orgasms.  We’ll have a lot of sex – as can be expected much more that when I’m not being denied my orgasms – but when cum escapes my cock it will be when she decides to let my orgasm run its course.